In “Twenty-One Habits of Highly Functioning Families” (published by WestBow Press – a division of Thomas Nelson and Zondervan), author and speaker Terry Cagle uses “outside the box” practicality to inspire godly habits in each member of the family. He presents 21 practical and biblically based habits identified to best equip families to grow closer to God and one another, taking families from dysfunction to function.
Cagle is scheduled to travel to Ukraine in June and spend two weeks presenting the material in his new book to local churches and schools in KaKramatorsk and to families at Camp Amerikraine in Dnepropetrovsk.
A minister and family counselor, Cagle says he was inspired to write this book because of the decline of the family he has witnessed in his 20 years of church ministry.
“I believe that God put it on my heart to pen these words and I am convinced that these habits, if practiced correctly, will help change the family,” Cagle said.
A family help book at its core, “Twenty-One Habits of Highly Functioning Families” presents realistic and easily applied habits that work for each and every member of the family. Husbands, wives, mothers, fathers and children can use it to help their families become closer and stronger.
Whether an intact or blended family or a single-parent household, the keys found in “Twenty-One Habits of Highly Functioning Families” will help create an atmosphere where families can thrive at any stage of life.
“I want readers to see that with God’s help — and by practicing these habits until they become a habit in the family’s daily life — the family can be great again, just as God designed it to be.”
To learn more about the book, speaker opportunities with Cagle or to purchase the book, visit www.21habits.net.
About “Twenty-One Habits of Highly Functioning Families”
The Devil has had his way in the family far too long. God designed the family to be beautiful. He even placed the first family in the paradise of the Garden of Eden. However, once the knowledge of good and evil entered the family, the Devil has tried, and has succeeded in keeping his foot in the door to the family.
The family needs a complete paradigm shift. The family needs to practice good, godly habits in order to accomplish this shift. The hope and prayer from this book is that “Twenty-One Habits of Highly Functioning Families” will provide the reader a useful tool for positive family habits. This will result in a change in our families, in our neighborhoods, in our churches, and in our world.
The mission of this book is that it will inspire good, godly habits that will allow families to shift from dysfunctional to highly functional. After reading each chapter, you will see a section titled, “Family Talk.” This is a section of study questions that will allow for even more quality discussions together.
Please consider practicing these 21 habits so they will become habits in your family’s daily life. Together, we can change and be the family that God first designed the family to be.
About the Author:
Terry Cagle serves God as a minister at Azalea City Church of Christ in Mobile, Ala. He has been married to his wife, Michelle, for 17 years. They have two children, Bo and Madeline. Cagle is also a son, brother and Christian who is interested in seeing a paradigm shift in the family. Cagle holds a degree in Biblical Studies from Faulkner University. With more than 20 years combined experience as a youth and family minister, teacher and coach, Cagle’s passion is to help families learn to thrive as God designed. “Twenty-One Habits of Highly Functioning Families” is his first book. For more information on the book or Cagle’s speaking schedule, visit www.21habits.net.
PRAISE FOR THE BOOK
“Terry Cagle’s timely new book, ‘Twenty-One Habits of Highly Functioning Families,’ is filled with wisdom that every family needs. This is a book that checks every box. It is readable, practical, motivational, and thoroughly Biblical. Cagle’s words come from a man who has a heart for families. Everyone exposed to this book will be blessed and every family exposed to this book will be strengthened. I intend to use this book as a tool to make myself a more effective preacher and teacher on the subject of the family. And I am certain that this book will help me to improve as both a father and husband as I embrace the challenge to incorporate these 21 excellent habits into my personal life. Looking for something to fortify your family? Read and then practice, “Twenty-One Habits.”
—Jeff Abrams, Minister, Tuscumbia Church of Christ
“A few weeks ago, we had given up hope on our marriage. After only being married for six months, we were going to end our marriage. We were given a copy of Twenty-One Habits of Highly Functioning Families, and it changed our lives! Our marriage is not going to fail now, it is going to flourish! Please read and practice the words in this book!”
—Steven and Brittney, Mobile, Alabama
“If the mark of great writing is the ability to simplify complexity, engage the heart and the mind and inspire the reader, Terry has succeeded. The tone of this book is remarkable, as Terry’s approach is highly conversational while also challenging and bold. If you are looking for a tool to help build a healthy and loving home, this highly practical, engaging and succinct book is for you.”
—Dr. Nathan Mellor, CEO Strata Leadership, LLC
& Principal Technologies, Inc.
HABITS PRACTICED BY HIGHLY FUNCTIONING FAMILIES
1. Children in families that participate in religious activities together are more likely to report seeing expressions of love and affection between their parents. Two dimensions of family religious involvement–family participation in religious activities at least once per week and parental prayer more than once per day—were associated with greater expression of love or affection between the parents, as reported by their children.
2. Spending time in everyday family leisure activities is associated with greater emotional bonding within the family. A family’s “core” leisure activities (those that are typically every day, low-cost, home-based activities such as playing board games, playing in the yard, gardening and watching television together) were related to the family’s cohesion (“the emotional bonding that family members have toward one another”). Both a family’s “core” activities and their “balance” activities (those that are novel experiences and require a greater investment of time, effort, planning and money, such as vacations, special events, and sports activities) were related to the family’s ability to adapt.
3. Teens who frequently have dinner with their families are at a lower risk for substance abuse. Compared with teens who frequently had dinner five times or more per week with their families, those who had dinner with their families only two nights per week or less were twice as likely to be involved in substance abuse. They were 2.5 times as likely to smoke cigarettes; more than 1.5 times as likely to drink alcohol; and nearly three times as likely to try marijuana.
4. Parents of families in which both the parents and children attend religious services are more likely to know their children’s social networks. They are more likely to know their children’s friends, those friends’ parents, and their children’s teachers, than parents of families in which only the parents or only the children, or neither, participated in religious activities.
5. Youths who communicate, do activities and have close relationships with their parents are less likely to engage in violence. Family integration through bonds with a parent (in particular, with a mother who was living in the home) was associated with a decrease in the likelihood that an adolescent will commit an act of violence. (Parent-child bonds were measured by adolescents’ reports of feeling close to their parents, being involved in family activities, and communicating with their parents.) Youths in two-parent families whose bond with their resident mothers was just one standard deviation higher than the mean level were 18 percent less likely to commit an act of violence than peers with average maternal bonds. Among youths living in single parent families, a bond with that parent that was one standard deviation above the mean was associated with a 17 percent decrease in violence.
6. Adolescents whose parents are involved in their lives tend to exhibit fewer behavioral problems. Parent involvement was assessed by how often the parent or parental figure asked about their children’s lives, encouraged their interests, gave good advice, and spent free time with them in school activities.
(Source: The Heritage Foundation)